Hello to everyone!!
I sincerely hope your day is going well for you, wherever you are.
Blog ideas are coming to me faster than my fingers can type them!!
I know my blog looks very simple yet, but my I.T. skills leave much room for improvement!! I’ll get it looking ‘pro’ …..it’s just going to be a process, like everything else in life is. ….And, I will be patient with the process, of course!!……I know you will be too. Thank you!!!
In my first blog I introduced myself, giving a very brief history of my life. Since I wrote that, I’ve been thinking about our ‘history stories’. We each have at least one!!…it could be colorful, boring, exciting, amusing, sad, devastating….or all of the above!!…and many more things as well!! Our ‘history story’ can be a very heavy burden. I might even add here, that a ‘history story’ doesn’t have to be from 20 or 50 years ago…it could be from yesterday!!
Perhaps we are quick to tell people our ‘history story’ when we meet people on the street, or in the supermarket!! Or, perhaps we manage to wait until the appropriate challenges arise in our life….then we can blame so much on that ‘history story’ !! ‘Yes, well, that was the way I was brought up… I suffered….I was abused….I was chronically sick all my life….I was never shown any love, or support’…. the claims can go on and on for ever!!!
It’s a real “Poor me” story….. a successful means of receiving heaps of sympathy votes every single time it’s told. However it keeps us trapped in the darkness of self pity. It is very self-destructive…..it’s like being in a dark prison, in our own mind. This happens to most people without them being aware….they simply let their past and their ‘history story’ dictate their lives, and futures. Without even realizing, it’s much easier to blame someone else …. parents, child, spouse, boss…. (fill in the blank!!!)…..rather than take personal responsibility for their own life.
I had someone say to me, “Give me the opportunity to tell you what my childhood was like, so you’ll understand’. Well, for me the truth was….I knew enough details of ‘the childhood’, and had already witnessed the results that ‘the childhood’ had produced. Of course, that person’s at a stage where there needs to come the realization that the ‘history story’ is not serving – it’s making life unbearable. Change would have to be a very conscious decision, otherwise the ‘history story’ will keep on re-creating itself throughout life.
Now, there is way our ‘history story’ can serve us – to make it an “Empower Me” story. It then, not only empowers the individual, but also others. These people have come to accept that what ‘ happened’ cannot be changed, and they realize they can choose to change their perception of what happened. I understand there are some stories that are very heart wrenching and extremely painful….. but instead of wallowing in the pain and self pity, and creating a living ‘hell’, these people realize that the experiences that created the story, happened for their growth and freedom. These people make a very conscious decision not to become entrapped by their story, and become compassionate toward those who go through similar experiences…giving great help and support. These people will tell their ‘history story’…. at appropriate times, with the intention to encourage others to make a breakthrough, and grow through their experiences.
I’m sure you could think of at least one person that has been able to ‘conquer the demons’ of their ‘history story’. I can. A couple of years ago, I saw a man on a stage,… who at a young age (9, I believe, without getting his book out!!) was in an accident on a train line…losing both his legs. He didn’t have artificial legs, yet managed to get himself out of his wheelchair, and up onto a laddered platform, to sit and speak to us from the stage. His ‘history story’ isn’t one of pain and suffering, (even though there was an astounding amount of suffering though the actual experience) ….but the essence of his story is courage, overcoming and achieving dreams….even without any legs…. and even ‘climbing’ Mount Killmanjaro in Africa. His name is Tony Christiansen, from New Zealand. He is a truly amazing, inspiring person. His ‘history story’ is titled Don’t Just Sit There – and it certainly inspires each of us to make our history an “Empower Me” story.
So??….is your ‘history story’ keeping you trapped, or setting you free??
Let’s chat again soon,